(Blog Post Based on the Clip from Ep 24 of the Greg and Tim Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyOtiiIBtN0)
Exploring Love from a Male Perspective: As a man in today’s world, navigating the concept of love can feel like trying to solve a puzzle where some pieces are constantly changing. It’s often romanticized, wrapped up in flowers, chocolates, and the perfect endings we see in romcoms. But for many of us, love is something deeper, more complex, and less often talked about from a male perspective.
In a recent episode of "The Greg and Tim Show," Tim and I dug into this topic, trying to unravel what love really means for men. As we taped the episode on Valentine’s Day, the conversation naturally started with how commercialized love has become. We both agreed that Valentine’s Day feels geared more towards women—a day where the pressure to buy overpriced flowers and book packed restaurants is high. I’ve never really celebrated it, and neither has Tim, because for us, love is about something more enduring than a single day.
But this got us thinking: Has Hollywood and society changed the definition of love? Has it been reduced to something that’s all about emotions and grand gestures? In movies, love is often portrayed as this overwhelming feeling that sweeps you off your feet, leading to a happy ending. But in reality, love isn’t always so neat and tidy.
Tim and I touched on whether love is an emotion. Sure, emotions are a part of love, but they’re fleeting. You can wake up one day feeling grumpy after a bad sleep, and that emotion might not align with love. But does that mean you stop loving? Absolutely not. That’s because, for us, love is a choice, an action we consciously decide to take every day.
One of the most insightful parts of our discussion was about love languages. We all express and experience love differently, and understanding that can be a game-changer in relationships. For Tim, it’s acts of service—doing things for someone as a way to show love. For me, it’s words of affirmation—those heartfelt thank yous and expressions of appreciation that really resonate. It’s not just about the big moments, but the small, unexpected things that show you care.
Reflecting on how I express love, especially towards my kids, made me realize how much love drives our actions. When I think about my children, the love I feel for them is immense. It’s the kind of love that would absolutely wreck me if anything ever happened to them. That’s not just an emotion; it’s a deep, unwavering commitment to their well-being.
But here’s the thing: as men, we often struggle to express these feelings. Society hasn’t always made it easy for us to talk about love openly. There’s this stereotype that men need to be tough, stoic, and in control of their emotions. But the reality is, love is a powerful force in our lives, and we need to be able to talk about it—whether it’s with our partners, our kids, or even with our friends.
In the end, love isn’t about the flowers or the chocolates or the perfect romantic moment. It’s about being there for the people you care about, even when it’s hard. It’s about choosing to love, day in and day out, in both the big gestures and the small, seemingly insignificant moments.
So, as we wrap up this conversation on love, I encourage you to think about how you express love in your life. Is it through actions, words, or maybe even a quiet, unspoken commitment? Whatever it is, don’t be afraid to embrace it. Because at the end of the day, love—real love—is one of the most important things we have, and it’s worth every bit of effort we put into it.
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